Have you ever been in an argument or confrontation and wondered about your reaction. Maybe, when looking back at the event you realize that it should not have been as big of a deal as you made it out to be. Why did you do that?
Can I tell you?
Well, you did that because you were more into your “remembering” mind than in our present “thinking” mind. When we have repressed emotions, the old stuff, the blockages, the filters…. that have not been dealt with yet, and they are out in front of us, it is very difficult to get out in front of those and be authentic and real in our emotions and reactions.
This begs the question, “What can I do about it?”
The answer is 3 phase.
First of all, do “the work”…..which you are already doing and I know that because you are getting this email means that you have signed up for our newsletter and you are taking steps…at whatever rate and speed is comfortable for you…towards releasing these issues.
Secondly, lighten up. When you realize that your reactions are more based in YOUR past, what you remember, rather than on what is going on in front of you, it makes it easier to easy on yourself.
Third, realize that the person you are in confrontation with is also basing their reaction on what they remember from their past, rather than what is going on in front of them. This makes it easier to go easy on them too.
We are all doing the best we can with the skills and tools that we have and sometimes our skill and tools need to be upgraded. When you realize that the work just gets easier from there.